The person censored in white then told me that the person who answered me was not a 'he' after I made the mistake of calling 'her' a 'he' while telling that person that it was no problem because I did not know anything about them, but I did not know what he was talking about at the time, so I told him as much and didn't respond further.Īfter he broached me yet again about everyone's genders, I told him that I would try to be on my toes about keeping myself up-to-date with everyone's genders, but due to being in online environments for years that consist of people who call every unknown person a 'he' as a gender-neutral term, I may forget to do so or fall back into old habits since I've also never met someone nor been in an environment where people would be offended by being called a 'he' by someone who does not know anything about them-all of which I explained as best as I could via text.Īfter leaving that last message, I ALT+Tabbed back into what I was playing for a moment until I received a notification from a friend. I said that 'he' was probably saying that to me and also told that kind person that it was no problem. I wanted to share with everyone my experiences in the 'official' Caves of Qud Discord server to caution everyone here who is planning to join or has already joined the server:Īfter asking a question in #qud-questions-the only activity I do in that server, the person who answered my question apologized to me for the confusion of their words towards the end of the discussion and the person censored in white-after chiming in between my and that person's responses about what I asked-told the person that it was fine.

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